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Osiria rose
This is sexy
AUUUGH it’s alien and gorgeous
This would have solved all of Alice in Wonderland’s problems.
Vienna Teng - Recessional
There are about six different stories about how this song came about, and I think I’ve told them all at different shows… I started writing it after seeing Sam Phillips, who introduced one of her songs that night as a “reverse striptease.” Around that time I was also infatuated with the movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, and the way Michel Gondry played around with timelines and the selectiveness of memory. I also wanted to try writing a poem to set to music later —- something whose words might stand on their own if read on paper. And as always there’s something of my own life in there, albeit distorted beyond recognition.
I <3 me some Vienna Teng, but for some reason I’ve never paid this song particular attention before.
Right now, though, it’s grabbing me and hard.
(and is unfortunately just a key or two too low for me to sing along comfortably.)
Fuck Yeah Feminist Thor.
oh my god bless you, Thor
PRAISE THOR
CAN FEMINIST THOR BE A THING
I’ve finally figured it out! I don’t hate the term pansexual. I’m actually just fine with it. It’s taken me a long time, but I’m finally here. It doesn’t bother me at all when someone labels themself pan-, which is a pretty big relief to me since that’s how at least one of my partners identifies.
On the other hand, I cannot stand the people who created the term. Or perhaps I should be clearer, since I can’t say with absolute certainty what those first people were thinking: I can’t stand the attitude of the people that evangelize the term, today.
Apologies at the length of this. Apparently I have feelings on the topic.
I also occasionally have … an odd reaction to the term pansexual. I 100% respect everyone’s right to choose identity-words that fit them best, and I’ve never quite felt comfortable with identifying as bi - “bisexual” as a word does kinda imply that a) there are two immutable genders (false) and b) that one is attracted to them exactly equally (whereas it’s a *really fluid* thing with me).
But “pansexual” has also never really resonated with me, and I think Dani has put her finger on why - even though “bisexual” is a weird word to load “not picky about gender” onto, that is traditionally what it’s meant. I think it’s admirable that some people decide that they want a word that is more explicitly inclusive of those people with non-binary gender identities to whom they’re attracted - but:
There is a way in which trying to set “pan” and “bi” up as different concepts requires shrinking the scope of what’s “allowed” to people who identify as bi, and this squicks me a bit for two reasons. One is the one Dani identifies in her essay, that then you’re trying to redefine other people’s identities for them. Identity policing doesn’t magically get less gross just because your intent is to add more colors to the rainbow. The other, though, is that … when you separate out non-binary-identified people as a group that the traditionally-inclusive identity is suddenly not “supposed” to be attracted to? That feels *really* othering to me. I don’t know that I necessarily have a “right” to say so, as a cis woman, but it still squicks me on some weird instinctive level.
IDK, I feel weird and uncomfortable posting this because I’m worried that it’ll come off as judgey to those friends of mine who ID as pan and that’s not my intent; I’m just trying to work through my own thoughts/identity struggles here, and figure out why “pansexual” gives my brain a divide-by-cucumber error when I apply it to myself even though I technically fit the definition.
tl;dr: I like queer, it is nice and grab-bag-y and a single syllable instead of the vast oversharey mini-essay that spills out whenever I try to get more specific about my identity.
My name is Shannon and I also like to party.
There was a party?
No. But should there be a party? Could we throw a party that was good?
One must conduct experiments to come to scientifically defensible conclusions, you know.
The shadows cast by a tree created a set of overlapping pinhole cameras that projected the eclipse onto the ground. More pretty pretty pictures at the link.
